Aristotle said: “We are what we repeatedly do.”
We form habits but then our habits end up forming us.
Most people have uphill hopes and downhill habits.
Hope is a great motivator, but it is not a strategy.
(Romans 12:2 MSG) Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.
Habit #1 – Come close to God.
Habit #2 – Control my thoughts.
Habit #3 – Keep my life aligned with my purpose.
God had the thing for you to do first, then He made you!
We need to live by design, not by default!
Choose my relationships carefully.
Your relationship decisions are the most important decisions you will make in your life.
You are the sum total of your relationships. You show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.
(Proverbs 27:19 TLB) A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses.
Four relationship verb choices you can make:
✓ Nurture my important relationships.
Nurture – to feed and protect.
Relationships take work! Just because it takes work does not mean it is a bad relationship.
(1 Peter 4:7-8 NIV) The end of all things is near. Therefore be alert and of sober mind so that you may pray. (8) Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
✓ Restore my broken relationships.
The pain of fixing a broken relationship is not as bad as the pain of not having the relationship.
(Romans 12:17-18 NIV) Do not repay anyone evil for evil… (18) If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
(Colossians 3:13 NLT) Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
✓ Sever any harmful relationships.
(Proverbs 13:20 NLT) Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.
(1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV) Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
✓ Initiate some meaningful relationships.
Start relationships you don’t already have.
(Hebrews 10:25 NIV) Let us not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another–and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Mastering the Habit
Four relationships that you need to initiate:
- Develop my relationship with my church.
(Ephesians 2:19 TLB) …you are members of God’s very own family…, and you belong in God’s household with every other Christian.
You need to eventually move from being an attender to a member.
You need to eventually move to a place of commitment.
Take ownership because it belongs to you and you belong to it.
- Develop my relationship with godly friends.
Do you know how to tell if you are around godly friends? If being around them makes you more godly.
If they are not pushing you to become more like Jesus, you may need some new friends.
(Acts 2:44 TLB) And all the believers met together constantly and shared everything with each other,
- Develop my relationship with a team.
You will never do anything significant alone!
(Ecclesiastes 4:8 NIV) There was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother. There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth…Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
- Develop my relationship with God.
(Jeremiah 29:13 NLT) If you look for Me wholeheartedly, you will find Me.