Note from Pastor Brad: I would like to personally thank Pastor Bob Yandian of Grace Church in Tulsa, OK for his teachings on the Book of Proverbs from which a large portion of the notes in this series of lessons have been taken.
(Survey From Kids on Mothers)
Why did God give us mothers?
- It’s the best way to get more people.
- They help out when we are getting born.
What ingredients are mothers made of?
- Clouds, angel’s hair, everything nice in this world and one dab of mean.
What kind of little girl was your mom?
- I wasn’t there but I guess she was pretty bossy.
- They say she used to be nice.
What did your mom need to know about your dad before she married him?
- His last name.
- Is he a crook, did he get drunk on beer and make at least $800 per year.
- Does he say no to drugs and yes to chores.
Why did your mom marry your dad?
- He makes the best spaghetti in the world and my mom likes to eat.
- My grandma says that my mom did not have her thinking cap on.
What’s the difference between moms and dads?
- Moms work at work and at home, dads just work at work.
- Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
- Dads are taller and stronger but moms have all the real power.
Describe the world’s greatest mom:
- She would make broccoli taste like ice cream
- She would not make me kiss all my fat aunts
Is anything about your mom perfect?
- Her teeth. She bought them at the dentist.
- Just her kids.
Proverbs 1:8-9 NKJV My son, hear the instruction (discipline) of your father, And do not forsake the law (teaching) of your mother; (9) For they will be a graceful ornament on your head, And chains about your neck.
Remember that fathers are primarily to be the disciplinarians in the home and mothers are to be the teachers. This means that the father gives the boundaries or the parameters. Both parents can discipline and/or teach but this is a general view from the Bible of the parental structure.
You might feel inadequate to teach, but God says that you are able. There is also a lot of material to help equip you.
Sometimes we feel inadequate because we were not taught well.
Men and women are under a curse today.
There are spiritual curses in the earth and natural curses in the earth as a result of Adam’s sin. Jesus has redeemed us from the spiritual curses and the natural curses we can overcome through the power of God as well.
1 Timothy 2:13-15 NKJV For Adam was formed first, then Eve. (14) And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. (15) Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.
The responsibility of the fall is attributed to Adam as he was not deceived. But both were in the transgression.
Genesis 3:16-19 NKJV To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.” (17) Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’: “Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life. (18) Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, And you shall eat the herb of the field. (19) In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread Till you return to the ground, For out of it you were taken; For dust you are, And to dust you shall return.”
The curse that came upon them as a result of sin, was simply resistance to what they were already doing. Adam had a job and that was to tend the garden and cause it to be fruitful and multiply but now because of the curse, everything was going to resist him being able to do it without resistance. The ground would now become very resistant to man.
Before the fall, woman was supposed to have children without great resistance but now because of the curse, great pressure and resistance would be present.
1 Timothy 2:15 NKJV Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.
This verse is not saying that women must have children in order to be saved. We are saved by grace.
I believe “they” can be two different things. It can be the husband and the wife but it can also be the children as they are raised by the mother.
This verse is saying that she is delivered from the curse if she has children and they continue in faith, love, and holiness with sound thinking.
Getting a job does not make you equal with men, getting Born Again makes you equal with men.
Builder of the family name – the mother has just as much a part of this as the father does.
What does a woman teach to her children:
1 Timothy 5:14 KJV I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
Titus 2:1-5 NKJV But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: (2) that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; (3) the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things– (4) that they admonish (teach) the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, (5) to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
Proverbs 22:6 NKJV Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
Notice that there are things that young women must be taught:
- To be sober – think clearly, make good decisions.
- To love their husbands – this is the Greek word “philandros” which means to love their husbands as a friend or best friend.
- To love their children – to have an affectionate love for them
- To be discreet – to be self-disciplined
- To be chaste – protect their virginity until they get married
- To be keepers at home – one who looks after their domestic affairs with prudence and care
- To be good – to be benevolent, profitable, and useful
- To be obedient to their own husbands – to be placed in the proper order of authority in the home, in submission.
Priorities based on the Word of God:
- Relationship with God.
- Relationship with your spouse.
- Relationship with your church.
- Your job.
- Your social life.
Children are the highest priority in the home second only to God and your spouse.
There are going to be times when the mother needs to go to work.
If at all possible, the mother should stay home until children are school age.
There is nothing wrong with a woman working as long as it does not interfere with her priorities in the home.
Proverbs 31:10-31 NKJV Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. (11) The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. (12) She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. (13) She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. (14) She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. (15) She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. (16) She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. (17) She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. (18) She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night. (19) She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle. (20) She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. (21) She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet. (22) She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. (23) Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. (24) She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants. (25) Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. (26) She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness. (27) She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. (28) Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: (29) “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.” (30) Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. (31) Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 12:4 AMP A virtuous and worthy wife [earnest and strong in character] is a crowning joy to her husband, but she who makes him ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. [Prov. 31:23; I Cor. 11:7.]
Proverbs 14:1 CEV A woman’s family is held together by her wisdom, but it can be destroyed by her foolishness.
Proverbs 14:1 GNB Homes are made by the wisdom of women, but are destroyed by foolishness.